General Partner Etiquette

Before Dancing With a Partner,
  • It is more polite to ask a partner to dance than to stand on the sidelines watching.
  • Politely ask a partner to dance. Gentlemen should be polite and ask for a dance using phrases such as: “May I have this dance?”, “Would you like to dance?”, Ladies should accept an invitation graciously wth “Certainly.”, “Yes, I would love to.”
  • Follow the no monopolizing rule, follower may excuse herself after two successive dances to provide the leader with an opportunities to ask another partner. This rule encourages mixing and more opportunities for all to dance.
  • A leader should not cut it on a dancing couple without first asking any follower who is not dancing whether she would like to dance.
  • Followers should not huddle in groups, it makes it harder for the leaders to ask them to dance.
  • Introduce yourself, as well as other people you know who do not know each other.
  • While dancing the ballroom dances, the leader may extend his left hand to the follower who moves forward to accept the invitation by grasping his open left palm with her right hand and by moving into a closed dance position with the leader in preparation to move together with the music.

When Dancing with a Partner,
  • Be considerate of your partner. Avoid giving hints, criticizing, or dancing for the benefit of onlookers- showing off at the expense of your partner.
  • Move in unison with your partner. Avoid leading your partner as you would an object.
  • The leader is responsible for choreeography on the dance floor. Avoid elaborate and complex combinations with a new partner. Focus on the basic steps to the music, then gradually add variations.
  • Be considerate of other couples. Avoid executing long routines and horizontal arm extensions, especially when the floor is crowded.
  • The follower should let the leader lead, have patience that the leader is doing his best.
  • Do not offer advice on the dance floor unliess you are specifically asked for your opinion.
  • The follower's arms should not rest heavily on the leader's arm and hand. Both leader and follower need to keep a good frame.
  • The leader's right hand should not slip down below the follower's left shoulder blade.
  • Avoid singing, counting out loud, or chewing gum to the music as you dance.
  • If you accidentally bump someone, offer an apology.
  • Inconspicuously and gently lead a partner through an unknow step, or move to the side to avoid blocking traffic.
  • Do not eat, drink, or stand and talk on the dance floor when others are dancing.

After Dancing with a Partner,
  • Etiquette does not stop immedately when the dance or music is over, the leader should escort the partner back to where she was asked to dance.
  • Both partners thank each other for the dance.
  • During an evening of dance, share the fun by dancing with many different partners.
  • At the end of the evening, thank the official host or hostess. 
(Adapted: Social Dance: Step to Success, by Judy Patterson Wright)